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Boundary Crashers and Bullies

Boundary Crashers and Bullies

There are many different levels and types of abuse.  Any relationship, personal or otherwise is susceptible to it.  Sometimes, abuse is easily recognized, other times, it is more subtle.  Abuse can be intentional, or it can be unintentional.  Sometimes abusive behavior is the only way the abuser knows how to deal with their fear, anger […]

What Love Is

What Love Is

The quote in the image above is from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis de Bernières.  When we enter into marriage or a long-term relationship, most of us intend to develop those deep roots that the author describes.  It is why this quote is often used in wedding ceremonies. When the flame of passion begins to […]

6 Reasons We Don’t Ask for Help

6 Reasons We Don’t Ask for Help

We are not meant to go through hardships alone.  It troubles me that so many of us are reluctant to let others know when we are going through one of life’s challenges.  We feel good about ourselves when we help others, but when it comes to asking for emotional support for ourselves, we shy away. […]

If he really loved me…

If he really loved me…

“If he really loved me, he would _______________.”  This is what we say when we are caught up in our thinking. Yes, we are in pain and yes, we are feeling sad, angry, rejected, unimportant, etc…  In our mind, it’s clear that our partner’s behavior is the cause of our discomfort.  But,  this is faulty thinking because […]

Boxes of Memories

Boxes of Memories

A few days ago, I received a letter from a law office informing me that I owed $3,000 to a Property Owner’s Association for assessment fees on a small tract of land in North Georgia.  I have not owned that property since the early 1980’s.  For some reason, the warranty deed on file was never changed […]

Until Death Do Us Part

Until Death Do Us Part

When I married my first husband, I promised to love, honor and respect him.  I promised to stay with him until we were parted by death.  Unfortunately, I did not do my due diligence and really get to know the man I was making all these promises to.  Nor, did I truly know myself. It […]

Hey! What about MY feelings?

Hey! What about MY feelings?

This morning as I listened to a couple of  women who called into a local radio station, I felt compelled to write about what I heard.  I’ve changed the names to protect their identities. Jessica, called the station to complain that her best friend, Kim, kept sending pictures and text messages of her child’s growth milestones to […]

Is My Marriage Over?

Is My Marriage Over?

How do we know if we should stay or leave a marriage?  Based on my personal experience and the feedback I have received from people I have spoken with or coached over the years, this question can be extremely perplexing.   Even when there is physical or emotional abuse and even if infidelity or an addiction […]

Do You See Life in Black & White?

Do You See Life in Black & White?

“Colorful Of Straw” by Nutdanai Apikhomboonwaroot Or, have you noticed that our world is full of brilliant color?   I think it’s a great metaphor for relationships and life itself.  Very few life experiences are black and white.  In fact, most aspects of life are a bit messy and not within our control.  One could even […]

What Kind of Coffee Are You?

What Kind of Coffee Are You?

Have you heard the story about the egg, a carrot and coffee beans? Basically, the story points out that when immersed in boiling water, an egg becomes hardened on the inside, a carrot becomes soft and mushy, but coffee actually changes the boiling water into something delicious. The story is designed to make us think […]

Are You Really?

Are You Really?

Do you think of yourself as a kind and loving person?  Are you, really? If we squeeze an orange, the only thing that comes out of the orange, is orange juice.  There is no chance that we will get grape juice or anything else from the orange.  When someone “squeezes” you, what comes out?   When […]