relationship

Do You Feel Invisible In Your Marriage?

by Linda Thurwanger

Does your spouse treat you with indifference or worse?  Do you feel invisible?  Have you been asking yourself whether you should stay or go?  Do you wonder if you have done enough to make the relationship better?  People with abusive partners, ask themselves these question more often than you might imagine.  These are some of […]

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Obstacles In Your Mind Are Not As Real As They Appear

by Linda Thurwanger

  You know that message that is written on the side-view mirror of your car?  The one that says “objects in mirror appear closer than they are”.  The obstacles in your life, may sometimes appear larger and more real than they are, and they can often stand in the way of you getting what you want […]

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You’re Not Belle, and He’s Not an Enchanted Prince 

by Linda Thurwanger

  In the fairy tale, Beauty and The Beast, Belle (Beauty) uses patience, love and kindness to break an evil spell and transform The Beast back to a handsome, gentle prince. When a woman stays in a relationship with a man who acts like a beast towards her, I wonder if there is a bit […]

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Should I tell my spouse I am thinking about divorce?

by Linda Thurwanger

  Whether or not you should let your spouse know you are thinking about divorce, depends on your individual situation and the results you expect from that confession.   You might want to ask yourself a few of these questions when trying to decide whether or not to tell your spouse your innermost thoughts about […]

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One More Chance

by Linda Thurwanger

Are you unhappy in your marriage?  Are you waiting for your spouse to change from being uncaring, inattentive, undemonstrative and angry into someone who is attentive, loving, affectionate and peaceful?  How long have you been waiting for that to happen?  When was the last time you truly felt loved and appreciated by your spouse?  When […]

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What Love Is

by Linda Thurwanger

The quote in the image above is from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis de Bernières.  When we enter into marriage or a long-term relationship, most of us intend to develop those deep roots that the author describes.  It is why this quote is often used in wedding ceremonies. When the flame of passion begins to […]

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You Can Be Happy… No Matter What

by Linda Thurwanger

If you are waiting on someone else to start or stop doing something in order for you to feel better, happy, worthy, more peaceful or loved, you are putting yourself in the role of the victim and giving your power away. Many of the people I coach, come to me in a state of anxiety […]

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How To Find Lasting Love

by Linda Thurwanger

30 years ago, I believed that finding a romantic partner was hard work. I thought I had to change how I looked, how I behaved and what I liked or disliked in order to attract a mate and have a successful romantic relationship. I didn’t think I was enough, so I became a master at […]

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Who is Your Bengal Tiger?

by Linda Thurwanger

Over the weekend, my husband and I saw the movie, Life of Pi. A fantasy adventure of a young boy named Pi, from Pondicherry, India who survives a shipwreck. He spends 227 days on a small lifeboat with a Bengal tiger named Richard Parker. To stay alive, not only must Pi outsmart and outmaneuver the […]

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New Year – New Relationship?

by Linda Thurwanger

Before you jump to conclusions about the title of this article, consider that a new relationship doesn’t necessarily mean that you will leave your existing relationship behind. You could develop a new relationship with your current partner or you could create a new relationship with yourself. On the other hand, if you are single, you […]

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