Relationship Support

When is Enough, Enough?

by Linda Thurwanger

I wish there was an easy, multiple choice test a person could take to determine if it is time to leave a relationship, change jobs, close a business, walk away from an alcoholic spouse, etc.…  Unfortunately, no such test exists. And, even if it did, we would still question the results.  So, how can you […]

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Letting Go of Past Hurts

by Linda Thurwanger

One of the questions I am most frequently asked by my coaching clients, has to do with how to let go of past grievances and emotional injuries.  Intellectually, many people know that when we revisit old wounds over and over again, it keeps us stuck in old feelings of victimization, resentment, hurt and anger.  Still, […]

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Setting Boundaries with Difficult People

by Linda Thurwanger

Maybe the world has always been this way, but in recent years, there seems to be a wide-spread trend toward self-centeredness.  Not only obsession with what the self wants or needs, but a total lack of consideration for the wants or needs of fellow humans.  Often this occurs within our own families.  Whether life has […]

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Resilience

by Linda Thurwanger

We’re born with it.  It’s the ability to bounce back again and again when life knocks us down. Why are some people able to move on after a tragedy or traumatic experience, but others are not?   Is there something superhuman about those of us who move on seemingly unscathed by an event that others cannot […]

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You’re Not Belle, and He’s Not an Enchanted Prince 

by Linda Thurwanger

  In the fairy tale, Beauty and The Beast, Belle (Beauty) uses patience, love and kindness to break an evil spell and transform The Beast back to a handsome, gentle prince. When a woman stays in a relationship with a man who acts like a beast towards her, I wonder if there is a bit […]

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Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys.

by Linda Thurwanger

Recently, I sent the old polish proverb, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” in a text message, to a close friend who was struggling to maintain her inner peace in the midst of chaos.  I often recite this saying to myself as a simple reminder, that I don’t have to let the irrational behavior of others, pull […]

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Life is a Gift

by Linda Thurwanger

On this date, thirty years ago, my family gathered to celebrate my dad’s upcoming 59th birthday.  It was a Sunday afternoon and it was the last time I saw my parents and my sister Marjorie, alive.  Two days later, they were gone.   I won’t go into the tragedy surrounding their deaths or the trauma […]

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Should I tell my spouse I am thinking about divorce?

by Linda Thurwanger

  Whether or not you should let your spouse know you are thinking about divorce, depends on your individual situation and the results you expect from that confession.   You might want to ask yourself a few of these questions when trying to decide whether or not to tell your spouse your innermost thoughts about […]

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Please Don’t Feed The Dragon

by Linda Thurwanger

Is there a dragon in your life?  I’m talking about the “fire-breathing” person, whose irrational behavior makes you feel as if you have to constantly monitor your words and actions to ward off their angry outbursts?  Maybe you tell yourself it’s not a big deal because you can do whatever you have to do to […]

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One More Chance

by Linda Thurwanger

Are you unhappy in your marriage?  Are you waiting for your spouse to change from being uncaring, inattentive, undemonstrative and angry into someone who is attentive, loving, affectionate and peaceful?  How long have you been waiting for that to happen?  When was the last time you truly felt loved and appreciated by your spouse?  When […]

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