Life Support

Resilience

by Linda Thurwanger

We’re born with it.  It’s the ability to bounce back again and again when life knocks us down. Why are some people able to move on after a tragedy or traumatic experience, but others are not?   Is there something superhuman about those of us who move on seemingly unscathed by an event that others cannot […]

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Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys.

by Linda Thurwanger

Recently, I sent the old polish proverb, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” in a text message, to a close friend who was struggling to maintain her inner peace in the midst of chaos.  I often recite this saying to myself as a simple reminder, that I don’t have to let the irrational behavior of others, pull […]

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Life is a Gift

by Linda Thurwanger

On this date, thirty years ago, my family gathered to celebrate my dad’s upcoming 59th birthday.  It was a Sunday afternoon and it was the last time I saw my parents and my sister Marjorie, alive.  Two days later, they were gone.   I won’t go into the tragedy surrounding their deaths or the trauma […]

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Please Don’t Feed The Dragon

by Linda Thurwanger

Is there a dragon in your life?  I’m talking about the “fire-breathing” person, whose irrational behavior makes you feel as if you have to constantly monitor your words and actions to ward off their angry outbursts?  Maybe you tell yourself it’s not a big deal because you can do whatever you have to do to […]

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6 Reasons We Don’t Ask for Help

by Linda Thurwanger

We are not meant to go through hardships alone.  It troubles me that so many of us are reluctant to let others know when we are going through one of life’s challenges.  We feel good about ourselves when we help others, but when it comes to asking for emotional support for ourselves, we shy away. […]

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If he really loved me…

by Linda Thurwanger

“If he really loved me, he would _______________.”  This is what we say when we are caught up in our thinking. Yes, we are in pain and yes, we are feeling sad, angry, rejected, unimportant, etc…  In our mind, it’s clear that our partner’s behavior is the cause of our discomfort.  But,  this is faulty thinking because […]

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Boxes of Memories

by Linda Thurwanger

A few days ago, I received a letter from a law office informing me that I owed $3,000 to a Property Owner’s Association for assessment fees on a small tract of land in North Georgia.  I have not owned that property since the early 1980’s.  For some reason, the warranty deed on file was never changed […]

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Hey! What about MY feelings?

by Linda Thurwanger

This morning as I listened to a couple of  women who called into a local radio station, I felt compelled to write about what I heard.  I’ve changed the names to protect their identities. Jessica, called the station to complain that her best friend, Kim, kept sending pictures and text messages of her child’s growth milestones to […]

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It Takes Effort

by Linda Thurwanger

Life begins with effort.  As a 9 month old fetus, given the choice, to stay in the womb or go through the discomfort of passing through the birth canal, some of us would have opted to stay in the comfort of our mother’s womb.  There are some mothers,  when coping with obstinate teenagers, who might […]

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Butterfly Wings and Wisdom

by Linda Thurwanger

Over the weekend, my husband and I noticed a large, beautiful butterfly flitting from flower to flower.  We both remarked on how graceful and colorful the butterfly was.  Of course, I had to snap a photo with my cell phone. It wasn’t until I was admiring the photograph for the 7th or 8th time, that […]

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