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When is Enough, Enough?

When is Enough, Enough?

I wish there was an easy, multiple choice test a person could take to determine if it is time to leave a relationship, change jobs, close a business, walk away from an alcoholic spouse, etc.…  Unfortunately, no such test exists. And, even if it did, we would still question the results.  So, how can you […]

Letting Go of Past Hurts

Letting Go of Past Hurts

One of the questions I am most frequently asked by my coaching clients, has to do with how to let go of past grievances and emotional injuries.  Intellectually, many people know that when we revisit old wounds over and over again, it keeps us stuck in old feelings of victimization, resentment, hurt and anger.  Still, […]

Setting Boundaries with Difficult People

Setting Boundaries with Difficult People

Maybe the world has always been this way, but in recent years, there seems to be a wide-spread trend toward self-centeredness.  Not only obsession with what the self wants or needs, but a total lack of consideration for the wants or needs of fellow humans.  Often this occurs within our own families.  Whether life has […]

Life is a Gift

Life is a Gift

On this date, thirty years ago, my family gathered to celebrate my dad’s upcoming 59th birthday.  It was a Sunday afternoon and it was the last time I saw my parents and my sister Marjorie, alive.  Two days later, they were gone.   I won’t go into the tragedy surrounding their deaths or the trauma […]

6 Reasons We Don’t Ask for Help

6 Reasons We Don’t Ask for Help

We are not meant to go through hardships alone.  It troubles me that so many of us are reluctant to let others know when we are going through one of life’s challenges.  We feel good about ourselves when we help others, but when it comes to asking for emotional support for ourselves, we shy away. […]

If he really loved me…

If he really loved me…

“If he really loved me, he would _______________.”  This is what we say when we are caught up in our thinking. Yes, we are in pain and yes, we are feeling sad, angry, rejected, unimportant, etc…  In our mind, it’s clear that our partner’s behavior is the cause of our discomfort.  But,  this is faulty thinking because […]

Boxes of Memories

Boxes of Memories

A few days ago, I received a letter from a law office informing me that I owed $3,000 to a Property Owner’s Association for assessment fees on a small tract of land in North Georgia.  I have not owned that property since the early 1980’s.  For some reason, the warranty deed on file was never changed […]

Hey! What about MY feelings?

Hey! What about MY feelings?

This morning as I listened to a couple of  women who called into a local radio station, I felt compelled to write about what I heard.  I’ve changed the names to protect their identities. Jessica, called the station to complain that her best friend, Kim, kept sending pictures and text messages of her child’s growth milestones to […]

It Takes Effort

It Takes Effort

Life begins with effort.  As a 9 month old fetus, given the choice, to stay in the womb or go through the discomfort of passing through the birth canal, some of us would have opted to stay in the comfort of our mother’s womb.  There are some mothers,  when coping with obstinate teenagers, who might […]