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Life is a Gift

Life is a Gift

On this date, thirty years ago, my family gathered to celebrate my dad’s upcoming 59th birthday.  It was a Sunday afternoon and it was the last time I saw my parents and my sister Marjorie, alive.  Two days later, they were gone.   I won’t go into the tragedy surrounding their deaths or the trauma […]

Are You Ignoring An Open Window?

Are You Ignoring An Open Window?

Trying harder is not always the answer. Have you ever watched a flying insect, trapped inside your car, as it tried to escape through the windshield or the rear window?   Maybe you  rolled the side windows down, so all the bug had to do was move over a few inches and easily fly to freedom through the open window.  Instead, its wings […]

One More Chance

One More Chance

Are you unhappy in your marriage?  Are you waiting for your spouse to change from being uncaring, inattentive, undemonstrative and angry into someone who is attentive, loving, affectionate and peaceful?  How long have you been waiting for that to happen?  When was the last time you truly felt loved and appreciated by your spouse?  When […]

Boundary Crashers and Bullies

Boundary Crashers and Bullies

There are many different levels and types of abuse.  Any relationship, personal or otherwise is susceptible to it.  Sometimes, abuse is easily recognized, other times, it is more subtle.  Abuse can be intentional, or it can be unintentional.  Sometimes abusive behavior is the only way the abuser knows how to deal with their fear, anger […]

What Love Is

What Love Is

The quote in the image above is from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis de Bernières.  When we enter into marriage or a long-term relationship, most of us intend to develop those deep roots that the author describes.  It is why this quote is often used in wedding ceremonies. When the flame of passion begins to […]

6 Reasons We Don’t Ask for Help

6 Reasons We Don’t Ask for Help

We are not meant to go through hardships alone.  It troubles me that so many of us are reluctant to let others know when we are going through one of life’s challenges.  We feel good about ourselves when we help others, but when it comes to asking for emotional support for ourselves, we shy away. […]

If he really loved me…

If he really loved me…

“If he really loved me, he would _______________.”  This is what we say when we are caught up in our thinking. Yes, we are in pain and yes, we are feeling sad, angry, rejected, unimportant, etc…  In our mind, it’s clear that our partner’s behavior is the cause of our discomfort.  But,  this is faulty thinking because […]

Boxes of Memories

Boxes of Memories

A few days ago, I received a letter from a law office informing me that I owed $3,000 to a Property Owner’s Association for assessment fees on a small tract of land in North Georgia.  I have not owned that property since the early 1980’s.  For some reason, the warranty deed on file was never changed […]