Linda Thurwanger

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Do You Feel Invisible In Your Marriage?

by Linda Thurwanger

  Does your spouse treat you with indifference or worse?  Do you feel invisible?  Have you been asking yourself whether you should stay or go?  Do you wonder if you have done enough to make the relationship better?  People with abusive partners, ask themselves these question more often than you might imagine.  These are some […]

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Obstacles In Your Mind Are Not As Real As They Appear

by Linda Thurwanger

  You know that message that is written on the side-view mirror of your car?  The one that says “objects in mirror appear closer than they are”.  The obstacles in your life, may sometimes appear larger and more real than they are, and they can often stand in the way of you getting what you want […]

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Struggle is Caused by Unquestioned Thoughts

by Linda Thurwanger

  What are you struggling with today?   Are you feeling unappreciated?  Do you hate your job? Are you upset with your children or another family member?  Are you surrounded by people you have nothing in common with?   Do you want to change careers, but you think you are stuck?  Are you unhappy with your body? […]

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What Experiences are Your Thoughts Creating?

by Linda Thurwanger

Life is a constant unfolding of events, circumstances and relationships.  I’m sure you’ve heard it said that the only guarantee in life is that there are no guarantees.  You may have also noticed, that even when you do everything you can to protect yourself from uncomfortable experiences (loss of job, relationship crash, grief, etc.), life […]

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You’re Not Belle, and He’s Not an Enchanted Prince 

by Linda Thurwanger

  In the fairy tale, Beauty and The Beast, Belle (Beauty) uses patience, love and kindness to break an evil spell and transform The Beast back to a handsome, gentle prince. When a woman stays in a relationship with a man who acts like a beast towards her, I wonder if there is a bit […]

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Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys.

by Linda Thurwanger

Recently, I sent the old polish proverb, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” in a text message, to a close friend who was struggling to maintain her inner peace in the midst of chaos.  I often recite this saying to myself as a simple reminder, that I don’t have to let the irrational behavior of others, pull […]

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Life is a Gift

by Linda Thurwanger

On this date, thirty years ago, my family gathered to celebrate my dad’s upcoming 59th birthday.  It was a Sunday afternoon and it was the last time I saw my parents and my sister Marjorie, alive.  Two days later, they were gone.   I won’t go into the tragedy surrounding their deaths or the trauma […]

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Should I tell my spouse I am thinking about divorce?

by Linda Thurwanger

  Whether or not you should let your spouse know you are thinking about divorce, depends on your individual situation and the results you expect from that confession.   You might want to ask yourself a few of these questions when trying to decide whether or not to tell your spouse your innermost thoughts about […]

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Please Don’t Feed The Dragon

by Linda Thurwanger

Is there a dragon in your life?  I’m talking about the “fire-breathing” person, whose irrational behavior makes you feel as if you have to constantly monitor your words and actions to ward off their angry outbursts?  Maybe you tell yourself it’s not a big deal because you can do whatever you have to do to […]

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Are You Ignoring An Open Window?

by Linda Thurwanger

Trying harder is not always the answer. Have you ever watched a flying insect, trapped inside your car, as it tried to escape through the windshield or the rear window?   Maybe you  rolled the side windows down, so all the bug had to do was move over a few inches and easily fly to freedom through the open window.  Instead, its wings […]

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